A Peak Into our Home.

Our Morning in Pictures.

I thought I would give you a little sneak peak into our home today so you can get a better idea of what the daily life is like in our family.

Up until my eighth month of pregnancy I was working full-time and running a business. We decided at that time that I was needed at home so that was where I went. I stay home full-time for now while Thomas goes to work everyday.

It is summer here of course and I currently have in the house the baby and my for lack of a better term “step” children this week. It is our first week of summer with them and a couple are under the weather so we are doing a lot of bumming around.

Our doggies. They are spastic and have been brought from two families as well. The left is my girl I’ve had for years and has been by my side and the right drools a lot. Like a whole lot. Moving on……

Our living room with one of our lovely daughters helping watch the baby so I can get the other two moving. She has been up watching you-tube and all around enjoying her quiet morning.

The dining room with some syrup left over from breakfast. Flowers from our oldest daughter’s last day of school and a wedding we recently attended. I have to admit I don’t usually sit down to eat with the kids, we’re either feeding them in a hurry on our way out the door or I’m feeding the baby or something is taking me somewhere else. Even when we’re all together I’m standing in the kitchen with Thomas while he is finishing up cooking as he is the talented chef of the family.

Oh the laundry. You can guess that it never ends around here. When you have this many people you are doing it every single day or you are way behind. We currently have the blankets there because of the sick kiddos I referred to earlier. I am trying to avoid getting me or the baby sick because then the whole operation is in shambles and so far so good!

The boys’ room including one of them waking up. The bottom bed has some of his sisters’ “babies” so she could sleep seperate from her sick sister. The hanging clothes are because try as he might he can’t quite reach the closet to hang them on his own.

The cat who used to run free outside but has been forced back in after the neighbor complained she was pooping in their garden soooooooo……

These girls could not be more different. All of the stuffed animals and toys belong to one. It is her corner and those are her toys and she loves them and in a slightly hoarding way, will not let them go. The older one is dubbed a “tween.” She is the more emotional, artistic, social one. She likes to paint and really really really wants her own space. We try to make it work both of them together and they are really sweet about it (at least to me) most of the time.

The nursery with a sweet book given by a long-time dear friend. This room doesn’t see a lot of action quite yet because he is so young and stays with us most of the time. There is a lot of hope and promise in this room however because it holds the child that bonds us all together. (No pressure little guy.)

My oldest’s room. He would be quite embarrassed but I promise you that comforter is still there from Grandma’s visit. He got booted to the couch. He is the only kid with his own space at this point and trust me not everyone is happy about that.

Our house is so very full of a lot of different things. Noise, fun, fights, things, energy, needs and of course lots of love. I have never felt more at home with people and have found my sanctuary and I’m grateful for it everyday.

The whole idea behind this blog is our messy bed. It’s our actual bed with people and blankets, towels, electronics and anything else you can think of. As a nursing mom I use it for a lot of different things. It also symbolizes our hectic life and the controlled chaos of it that we love because it is ours.

Finally me, just me. Totally raw, no makeup hair thrown in a ponytail. Proud to show you our life and I hope you will continue to read my posts and support us. I am oh so excited for what the future will hold.

Grandma’s Coming Today!

Go check out her silly videos she is so funny and southern and we can’t wait to hear what she has to say this year!!

We will be posting video all weekend of her visit! This is the first time she is meeting Thomas’ three children and they are going to love her.

See you guys this weekend!!

Puffy Eye Attack

This mama is tired…a lot. I was not born blessed with extra energy whether I have one kid or 6. Taking care of a baby certainly doesn’t make me any less so and it tends to show under my eyes. They get dark and certainly puffy. I get the questions are you okay? Are you sick? No, just tired.

Last night we were at the baseball fields late with all the kids.

It was fun but needless to say we were all dragging this morning before school. I figured it was the perfect time to try out these under-eye patches.

I should say, I am not great at being girlie. I am feminine but terribly bad at upkeep and paying attention to detail so I don’t know a lot about different products. I tend to go by the packaging and a prayer. Sometimes I get lucky. I think I have tried patches under the eyes once or twice before and have zero idea what kind they are. So when I was at Target I saw this brand Soap and Glory and it looked cute and bright and thought “sure why not.”

A little bit about the product it is Soap and Glory brand from Target like I said. It is called Puffy Eye Attack Super-Hydrating Under-Eye brightening Hydrogel Patches. Sounds intense I know but I need it. It has cucumber fruit juice extract and something called “puffease technology.” The package was around five bucks and included one pair. I left them on for thirty minutes as the package said to do.

Left side before, right side after. Pardon the messy hair and my apologies to the carpool line at the kids’ school for what they are exposed to daily.

First thing I will say is they stay on really well. The ones I tried before I feel like they were falling off and I had to keep messing with them but these I was able to clean the house with them on securely. Second they made my skin itch just a little but did not burn and these kinds of things and face masks always do. My skin is very sensitive so kudos to that. As far as difference, I don’t know visually I don’t see much maybe it takes a little bit after taking them off for the juices to soak into skin but that seems slight as of now. I do feel it a lot though. My eyes feel less heavy and refreshed and it ain’t a bad feeling at all.

Are there any under eye products that are killer out there I need to know about? I would definitely use this one again and look forward to trying some other products from this brand!

She without a title….

I wasn’t planning this post at all but I wanted to fit it in before I have to go get the kiddos from school so lucky you right?

First things first me and Thomas are not married (pause for gasps). I know alert the church elders it is true. That is another post but we are committed and very much in love, cohabitating and the parents to our little round-headed love child but no not married.

Anyway, I receive two texts from him this morning first one asking if I can make it to a kindergarten graduation ceremony at his son’s school today at one and second saying never mind, his mom and grandma are going to go.

So I thought of his little face (also round) and how excited he would be to see me and baby there so I figured I would still go. I rush around to get out of the house by 12:40, grab the car seat and head out to be the good (Insert title here) I am.

I should have probably known to just stay home then because things started to get rocky. Thomas had last parked the vehicle I was taking in backward so to get to the door I have to walk in what is basically the hoover dam of our yard. One little piece of concrete surrounded by water and mud because oh yea it’s raining. I am carrying baby backpack, baby in car seat and water and ended up dropping water and forcibly having to put down car seat on the hoover dam then trying to figure out out to then open this door with car seat in way and honestly I don’t remember what I figured out. I blacked out and woke up driving (not really) but I did drive to the school.

So we have a suburban for obvious reasons, and it is very large. I am not good at parking large vehicles so I park in the schools tight parking lot, barely make pulling out the car seat slide through the cars just as the rain starts to pour.

Make it into school, get my id i’m waiting in line at the table they have to help get parents in I’m guessing I get up to desk and tell them who I’m there for. Teacher looks at list, (oh yea there was a list) I knew I wasn’t on said list but I waited hopeful. She looks nervous and gets the principal who comes over not knowing what to do.

Guess who had to go to the principal’s office. Me. Standing there awkwardly telling her it was ok as she apologized not knowing what to do. I glance down at the paper they give me….this is not a ceremony this is a lunch. Little man is currently at lunch with his mom and grandma. If I fight this battle to get in I will be sitting at their table and heightening the awkward to level ridiculous.

I gracefully let the principal know that I did not realize what this event was and it would probably be best if I just went home.

So I got back in my tightly parked car, got baby in and headed off where he proceeded to screammmmmmm his head off the entire way. I finally get home frazzled because of all the screaming get out put baby backpack on, grab car seat and proceed to drop brand new phone on wet concrete.

To conclude, I don’t have any cute, happy ways to wrap this story up. I tried I did not succeed and I will continue to try to be there for my kids.

Even if it gets me sent to the principal’s office.

The Fussy Baby

They come into this world so adorable, sweet and perfect. You have been anticipating their arrival and you are so ready for the excitement and love that they bring into your home. All this is true but then at some point the other shoe has to fall. The perfect relationship turns into a real one and you find yourself dealing with….the fussy baby.

Maybe you don’t. Maybe you have a content baby that only fusses here and there but that has never been my situation. This is my third and while there is a big gap between my first two and this one, I remember vividly all of them being super fussy.

What can you do in this situation? Have you missed something? Well let’s go down the checklist:

Diaper freshly changed?

Fed?

Burped?

Cuddled?

Sleepy?

I know there are many times when I go through this list over and over and still he is fussy. I have tried the bouncer, rocker and glider but nothing seems to be helping.

So what is the magic thing, what works every time and is the secret to getting things done especially when it’s just you and him?

Oh, I don’t know. Were you expecting me to? I have no idea, here I am on my third, thinking I knew all the answers and was well equipped and I find myself with the same frustrations after a couple of hours of the fussiness. Here are some ideas though.

  1. Time: One day they will get older and they may still whine (alot) but at least they won’t be constantly crying.
  2. Siblings: Set them up safely with an old enough sibling and back away slowly.
  3. Grandma (or grandpa, aunty, whathaveyou): for those lucky enough to live near one of these extremely useful human beings take advantage every chance you get.
  4. Strollers: What we have been doing lately is Thomas has been taking him for a run and this usually works like a charm.
  5. Earplugs: This option is pretty self explanatory.

So there you have it. The list showing my knowledge of how to deal with a crying fussy baby. If you learn anything from this post it’s that I know very little about the subject and am writing this post in a desperate attempt to solicit some good information through your feedback.

Thank you and God bless.

Oh and send help.

A Little Background….

How did we get here?

Well i’ll tell ya….

I’ll start with myself. I am a 36 year old divorced mom of 3. I have had different jobs in my life but most of them have had to do with fitness. I am certified as a personal trainer but I much prefer fitness in group settings like teaching classes for different gyms which I currently do at an Aerialist gym. I dabbled in owning/running it for the last 9 months or so and think I will own another business someday. I also just recently got my license to be an insurance agent here in North Carolina so we’ll see what I do with that.

I am a bit of a dreamer and need to feel motivated and passionate about things if not I tend to stop doing whatever that thing is. Currently I am a sahm mom because of my current situation.

Thomas my partner is a 34 year old dad of 4 biologically. He is a veteran who works at our local base where he’s been for a long time. He is heavy into jiu jitsu and one of the most caring, loving, sensitive and smartest person I have ever met. He is very unique and quirky (which I love).

Our Story….

We met when I was dating someone else and while I thought he was very cute and had a really sweet story I pushed that out of my mind to be a good girlfriend to the person I was currently dating. That relationship, (as they tend to do ) fizzled and I found myself yet again a single mom disappointed and unsure if I would ever find what I was looking for….a family oriented man. I had spent years since my divorce figuring out what I did and didn’t want out of a relationship and at this point I knew that was exactly what I wanted. One day I was at our local gymnastics facility watching my boys do their classes when I heard this deep voice say my name out of nowhere. I turn around to see Thomas in some kind of strange sweats leaning up against the wall with his hood on.

We talked for a minute and caught up briefly before I went to take my seat in the bleachers. It was a very short and casual encounter but it stuck in my mind which surprised me. Anyway, we decide to meet up about a week later and that would be a date that changed absolutely everything. I was basically living with him within a week, cancelled another lease I had put a deposit on, moved me and boys in and we started our new life! Cut to a little over a year later and we have his three who are 11 (girl), 9 (girl) and 6 (boy), my two boys 12 and 8 and a 5 week old surprise baby boy blessing!

This is our life and it is full of kids, sports, baby, homelife, chaos, fun and love! I would love to keep you updated on the ups and downs, things that work and things that have not. Please follow me and my journey!