She without a title….

I wasn’t planning this post at all but I wanted to fit it in before I have to go get the kiddos from school so lucky you right?

First things first me and Thomas are not married (pause for gasps). I know alert the church elders it is true. That is another post but we are committed and very much in love, cohabitating and the parents to our little round-headed love child but no not married.

Anyway, I receive two texts from him this morning first one asking if I can make it to a kindergarten graduation ceremony at his son’s school today at one and second saying never mind, his mom and grandma are going to go.

So I thought of his little face (also round) and how excited he would be to see me and baby there so I figured I would still go. I rush around to get out of the house by 12:40, grab the car seat and head out to be the good (Insert title here) I am.

I should have probably known to just stay home then because things started to get rocky. Thomas had last parked the vehicle I was taking in backward so to get to the door I have to walk in what is basically the hoover dam of our yard. One little piece of concrete surrounded by water and mud because oh yea it’s raining. I am carrying baby backpack, baby in car seat and water and ended up dropping water and forcibly having to put down car seat on the hoover dam then trying to figure out out to then open this door with car seat in way and honestly I don’t remember what I figured out. I blacked out and woke up driving (not really) but I did drive to the school.

So we have a suburban for obvious reasons, and it is very large. I am not good at parking large vehicles so I park in the schools tight parking lot, barely make pulling out the car seat slide through the cars just as the rain starts to pour.

Make it into school, get my id i’m waiting in line at the table they have to help get parents in I’m guessing I get up to desk and tell them who I’m there for. Teacher looks at list, (oh yea there was a list) I knew I wasn’t on said list but I waited hopeful. She looks nervous and gets the principal who comes over not knowing what to do.

Guess who had to go to the principal’s office. Me. Standing there awkwardly telling her it was ok as she apologized not knowing what to do. I glance down at the paper they give me….this is not a ceremony this is a lunch. Little man is currently at lunch with his mom and grandma. If I fight this battle to get in I will be sitting at their table and heightening the awkward to level ridiculous.

I gracefully let the principal know that I did not realize what this event was and it would probably be best if I just went home.

So I got back in my tightly parked car, got baby in and headed off where he proceeded to screammmmmmm his head off the entire way. I finally get home frazzled because of all the screaming get out put baby backpack on, grab car seat and proceed to drop brand new phone on wet concrete.

To conclude, I don’t have any cute, happy ways to wrap this story up. I tried I did not succeed and I will continue to try to be there for my kids.

Even if it gets me sent to the principal’s office.

A Little Background….

How did we get here?

Well i’ll tell ya….

I’ll start with myself. I am a 36 year old divorced mom of 3. I have had different jobs in my life but most of them have had to do with fitness. I am certified as a personal trainer but I much prefer fitness in group settings like teaching classes for different gyms which I currently do at an Aerialist gym. I dabbled in owning/running it for the last 9 months or so and think I will own another business someday. I also just recently got my license to be an insurance agent here in North Carolina so we’ll see what I do with that.

I am a bit of a dreamer and need to feel motivated and passionate about things if not I tend to stop doing whatever that thing is. Currently I am a sahm mom because of my current situation.

Thomas my partner is a 34 year old dad of 4 biologically. He is a veteran who works at our local base where he’s been for a long time. He is heavy into jiu jitsu and one of the most caring, loving, sensitive and smartest person I have ever met. He is very unique and quirky (which I love).

Our Story….

We met when I was dating someone else and while I thought he was very cute and had a really sweet story I pushed that out of my mind to be a good girlfriend to the person I was currently dating. That relationship, (as they tend to do ) fizzled and I found myself yet again a single mom disappointed and unsure if I would ever find what I was looking for….a family oriented man. I had spent years since my divorce figuring out what I did and didn’t want out of a relationship and at this point I knew that was exactly what I wanted. One day I was at our local gymnastics facility watching my boys do their classes when I heard this deep voice say my name out of nowhere. I turn around to see Thomas in some kind of strange sweats leaning up against the wall with his hood on.

We talked for a minute and caught up briefly before I went to take my seat in the bleachers. It was a very short and casual encounter but it stuck in my mind which surprised me. Anyway, we decide to meet up about a week later and that would be a date that changed absolutely everything. I was basically living with him within a week, cancelled another lease I had put a deposit on, moved me and boys in and we started our new life! Cut to a little over a year later and we have his three who are 11 (girl), 9 (girl) and 6 (boy), my two boys 12 and 8 and a 5 week old surprise baby boy blessing!

This is our life and it is full of kids, sports, baby, homelife, chaos, fun and love! I would love to keep you updated on the ups and downs, things that work and things that have not. Please follow me and my journey!